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My wife, Mari Kobayashi, is pregnant for the 2nd time this year. The first time she was so sick for the first 3 months of pregnancy that the baby didn't make it. The doctors said that either the baby would die or she would die.
Now she is about one month pregnant again and she is having all the same symptoms, including still bleeding and throwing up everything she tries to eat for the past 3 weeks.
My wife is not yet an SGI member and in fact she is very much against the SGI. After she was suffering so much in the last pregnancy, I tried getting her to try chanting, but when I asked her she just got mad at me. So this time I just have to chant more and hope she realizes that she should try chanting.
She has to spend everyday, all day in bed, and luckily she lets me have the gohonzon enshrined in our very big bedroom and I keep the budsudan open all day which faces her, while she is in bed (maybe someday while I'm at work, she will secretly try chanting, like my step dad first did to his younger brother's gohonzon when they were roommate many years ago, and he was also against my uncle's practice).
She doesn't mind when I chant while she is laying in bed, so I've been chanting a lot in the bedroom with her, while she is feeling very sick in bed.
Maybe the baby will somehow feel the daimoku and be stronger this time and pull her through.
I'm hoping this extreme struggle for my wife will be a major benefit in disquise that will finally get her to realize that she's a buddha and she can change anything with Nam Myo-ho Ren-ge Kyo.
She doesn't want me to tell anyone she's pregnant as she got mad at me for telling people last time when the baby didn't survive for more than 3 months of the pregnancy; but I feel I would be very selfish if I didn't share my struggles with my soka family, so we can all chant together for each other and we can be encouraged by each other's victories over the impossible.
Thank you for reading and I look forward to sharing a great experience about this incident in the near future.
Tim Janakos (VanCampen-Kobayashi)
PS: We planned to go to the US (for her first time) during the Christmas Holiday and I'm hoping she get's better before we are scheduled to fly to the US on December 24th, so she can go and we won't have to cancel our very expensive tickets (which are also very expensive to cancel and can't be rescheduled).